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Being a StepMom is Hard
Sometimes I wish I wasn’t a Stepmom. And let me clarify that statement. I LOVE my step son as if he were my own. I would do ANYTHING for him. I just wish I was the one to give birth to him, that’s all.
Some stepparents have a disconnect with the stepkid(s). It helps them to get on in life when you have to deal with all the bullshit from the ex. Sometimes, though, the ex is actually sane and nice and able to work with the stepparent in helping the child adjust/grow. Whatever they need. Ours is not that case. The total opposite. Most days I can live in denial and get on with things. But not every day. It’s a bummer.
Like I said about the disconnect, some stepparents take the fact that since they are not the biological parent and use it to keep a distance. If I knew in the beginning what I know now, I would have. It’s horrible to say but it would have made some things easier.
But I don’t want that. I don’t want to replace anyone, I just want to be an add-on. Is that so wrong? I mean, really, isn’t it a good thing to have another caring adult in a child’s life that they can look up to possibly, and receive guidance from? What’s wrong with wanting a working family unit in my own home?
We just found out today that we are having a baby girl!!!! I’m SO excited! Not that I wouldn’t love having a son, I think I would really enjoy a baby boy, but getting to have a little mine-me is so beyond words for me. I can’t wait to meet her!!!!
What to Get a New Older Brother?
We’re about to have a baby (in about four and a half months) and my step-son will become a big brother. I wanted to get him something special for the occasion. Every day I think I about it I either have a million ideas or none. I want this to be REALLY special and that’s why I am stressing out about it.
I am getting him a t-shirt that says “I’m the Big Brother” that he can wear to the hospital. I know that he’ll enjoy it if a stranger says something to him about it because then he gets to do what he likes best and tell some kind of story (maybe about being the big brother) and entertaining the adults. However, I know the novelty of this will probably wear off after one day, and he’ll never want to wear the shirt again. It is a little cheesy so that’s understandable.
Second, the due date is a little less than one month after his 10th birthday. He’ll be getting all sorts of presents and a part of me wants to wait until after to decide what to get him. I figure, I can wait to get his feedback on his gifts, and ask him if there was anything else he would like in addition. Maybe an add on to a toy? But it’s so close to the due date and I know I’ll be crazy busy getting ready for baby, (I’m a little type-A personality) and I want this to be taken care of a little sooner than that.
Thirdly, he likes small collections of things. For example, when he goes outside and sees a rock he likes and wants to keep (I had the same weird quirk when I was little, I didn’t understand it in me and I don’t get it in him), he needs to bring home like four more. One is not enough. It’s because of this, I was thinking of making a basket with small, inexpensive toys or gizmos. I know he would enjoy the variety and be very excited … but that doesn’t help me figure out what to put in it!
I’m hoping in the vastness world wide internet, SOMEONE would have been through this before and could let me know hits and misses. Any direction would be lovely and helpful to my scatterbrain!
tumblrbot asked: WHAT IS YOUR EARLIEST HUMAN MEMORY?
Meeting my Dad. He’s technically my step-dad but I’ve known him since I was about two years old. He’s always been the man in my life I could count on, look up to, and learn from. I met him one sunny, summer day. My mom made me wear a dress (I hated dresses) and I think I gave him some ‘tude cause I had to wear such a silly thing to meet him. I don’t remember a ton of details, just a few.
What now?
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